It is not your responsibility to coddle projectors
I was recently spring cleaning my desk, sifting through papers that were collecting dust, in the spirit of decluttering to welcome Spring and hopefully, the creative surge that often accompanies it. Whilst mowing my fingers through paper work, deciding what needed to stay and what needed to go, I stumbled on a small square piece…
Are you being an imposter or are you a victim of gas lighting?
A few weeks ago, I attended a childhood friend’s 30th birthday celebration. Joburg was showing off her beauty and had brought the sun out to play. Barefooted on the grass, legs crossed, breaking bread with common and new friends, I found myself in a conversation with a group of ladies about the realities of being…
Being mentally ill doesn’t absolve you from accountability
One of the most difficult lessons my journey with mental illness has taught me has…When womxn lead
When I think about leadership, I always start by thinking about how leadership has always been defined. Visually, it’s the pictures of men in sharp suits and womxn who are power-dressing, standing with arms crossed and no smiles, because, how else would we know they are serious and mean business? Thinking of it in terms of…
7 Tips to prepare for difficult conversations
There are many reasons why people experience anxiety at the thought of confrontation or needing to have difficult conversations. Sometimes, it’s a fear of authority. Sometimes, it’s because people are socialised to believe that elders, whether at home or at work are not to be challenged. Sometimes, it’s because people don’t know how to have…
5 Things Black womxn do not want to hear
As a Black womxn, there are so many assumptions, generalisations and insults that I’ve been…7 tips to help you land your dream job
80% of the time the people who land the job, never mind get the interview, usually have a relationship somewhere, somehow with the person/people they will be working with should they be successful. Reason is although teams hire for skill, increasingly important is for recruiters is the “fit” aka culture. All parties involved in the…
Is hard work the secret to success?
Hard work pays off. What you put in is what you get out. These are just some of the phrases we’ve all heard that are supposed to inspire us to pour everything we have into our work in order to enjoy the benefits of professional and financial success. And so, we spend years putting in…